Updated: Mar 24, 2022
Hey gorgeous girl! Did you know that you're a queen? Yes, I’m talking to you!! Maybe you don’t feel so beautiful or confident, or maybe you know you’re a queen already. Either way, whichever end of the spectrum you fall on, this encouragement is for you.
You know, most days as a mom of five little miracles, I am not very glamorous at all, to say the least! I mostly live in loungewear, usually with some sort of stain from spilled food or my kid's boogers, no makeup on, and to be honest with you, there are weeks when I get to wash my hair once just so I’m presentable for church. Mom life is not the glam life. However, there are those glorious days that I actually do get all dolled up and man does it boost my mood. So much so that one Sunday morning, as I was getting myself ready for church, I was admiring myself in the mirror, applying the finishing touch of mascara and I thought to myself, “You are a queen”. It’s really miraculous that we as moms can transform as we do. Nobody understands the Cinderella story quite like us, am I right?
It was just seconds after the, “I’m a queen” moment that I heard the sweet whisper of the Holy Spirit with a gentle question. “What does it mean to be a queen?”. What a great question. I thought about it for a second and quickly was filled with thoughts. Currently, in our culture, we hear girls talk about being queens as if they are higher or better than other women around them as if they stand out more than all the others. Many other girls think that being a queen means that they should be served hand and foot by their husband or by everyone else for that matter! They can quickly become filled with pride and arrogance, looking down from their “throne of self-worship” and lose out COMPLETELY on what it actually means to “be a queen”.
Again the gentleness of the Holy Spirit reminded me that a true queen's role is to help her people. Ultimately she is called to serve and not just to be served. Sure, she does get the royal treatment, and please don’t ever doubt for one second that we ALL deserve to be treated with respect, dignity, and honor. However, a good queen doesn’t have to demand respect from those she serves. It is well earned because the ones she's in service to will see her sacrifice and in return, they all will have a mutual love and respect for each other. Also, a good queen will not just sit around being doted on by her King as he does all the work. She will be right by his side, helping him along the way and giving counsel when needed. My prayer is that we women could see ourselves in this light.
As women who follow after Christ, we need to realize that the silly little saying of “I’m a queen” actually is our reality! We are the bride of Christ along with all our fellow believers in Yeshua the King of Kings, which makes us His holy and righteous queen! We are called by God to see ourselves as royalty, but not in an arrogant way. There are two lies that the enemy feeds us. One is that we are worthless, woe is me, good for nothing, and he strips us of our true value. We look in the mirror and we are unhappy and ashamed of who we are. This is not ok! The second lie that we can be susceptible to is one of pride, thinking we are better than those around us, filled with love for ourselves only, and thinking about and serving our own needs. Expecting others to cater to and please us. Again this is not ok! We need the sweet balance in the middle. We are Queens of Christ not because of anything we’ve done on our own but ONLY because of who He is and what He’s done for us. He chose us to be His Queen (Bride) and we need to humbly accept the invitation to walk in the confidence of who we are in Him.
What does that look like exactly you may ask? Great question. To be a Queen of Christ looks like us seeking out ways to help and serve others. Just like Queen Esther spoke up and saved her people. She didn't think of herself first, she risked her life to be obedient to the voice of God. We may not have to risk our lives as she did. Our service looks different, but the root of it is in obedience and sacrifice to God. Maybe our next-door neighbor or coworker is in need of friendship, or someone who will pray with them. Don’t be afraid to reach out and take steps of faith! When we hear the Holy Spirit whisper in our ear to do or say something, we should boldly obey. We can rest in the fact that He is faithful and worthy of our trust. For us moms and wives, it looks like us serving and tending to the needs of our husband and children with a joyful spirit. Again to reiterate, not to the degree that we wear ourselves out. There should be a healthy give and take. But since we’re talking about our role, we are called to serve them! It should be an honor because our family is designed to be our greatest blessing! If it's not currently feeling that way, maybe there's an imbalance somewhere. So, begin to pray and ask God to show you where the imbalance is so that it can be put back into balance. Being a Queen of Christ also includes taking time to care for our own needs. Ladies, IT'S OK AND GOOD to take time for ourselves! Being pampered is good and enjoyable. It’s not meant to be our main focus but it is needed if we want to be our best selves. We cannot give if we aren’t allowing ourselves to be poured into as well. Pampering may look different for everyone and that's ok too. The point is to find your inner glow and let the beauty that God gifted you, shine brightly for His glory! It brings Him, our mighty King, so much joy to see us, His glorious bride, flourishing in all our gifts and giving Him the credit!
So queens, let's step into our role with dignity and humbly walk alongside our King and build and serve His Kingdom! Let's see ourselves in the radiant beauty that He crowns us with. Let us boldly walk in obedience as we follow the voice of the Holy Spirit as He guides us in ways to better serve others. And remember, to serve as a queen!
Scriptures to meditate on.
Proverbs 9:13-18 Two clear examples of how we should and shouldn't act!
Proverbs 14:1 Let us be the noble and wise women these Proverbs talk about.
Isaiah 54:5 We are His precious bride!
Matthew 25:1-13 We must stay prepared for His return. Being about our Kings business.
Romans 12:3-5 Let's not get arrogant but be reminded that we all have our part to play as Christ's bride (queen).
1 Peter 4:7-11 The end is near, so let us serve each other well!